Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Nigerians and Tact

That word must be missing from our dictionaries.
We tend to say the most off the wall things and while I understand that half of the time, it's really not intentional, I have lived in Obodo Oyibo for way too long to know that ok, we need to watch how we talk.
I find myself randomly browsing random people's picture comments on Facebook and I'll see comments like this---> 'You look like you've added o. Did you add?' (Add= Gain weight)...and I'm sitting there thinking no shit! If they look like they added, then spank me silly..they probably did!
Or---> 'Ahhh what happened to you? You've added o'..again, spank me silly!
Me sef, I've been subject to a few tactless comments. I remember when my aunt saw me last christmas and all she kept on harping about was 'how fat I've become'. Of course she must have been going from the days when I used to wear a size 3/4 in express pants and I upgraded to a size 5/6. Now that's fat?
Or the most recent one that inspired this post. I picked my mom up from the airport on Sarraday. She had flown in from Naija with a friend of hers that I haven't seen since 2005..so me na, I tok say make I go greet the woman.

Me: Aunty Good evening. *Reaches out for a hug*
Aunty: Mgbeke! *Hugs me back*...You've added. You have pimples. What happened?

*Blank stare*
I really and truly did brush it off my shoulders. For one, after the initial irritation, I realized that she was just being her typical Naija self and she probably didn't mean anything by it. Secondly, I have no issues with my weight and oh yes! I am a fine girl with pimples so no shaking.

I was just randomly thinking about how we Naija people tend to comment on everything we see without thinking hence the reason for his post.

Aniwoos hHow una dey sha? How ya weekend?
I'm enjoying the mom's visit actually o. The woman too dey worry sometimes sha...like I just KNOW she was one of them evil seniors who used to send ju babes up and down but it's all good. That aside, it's been nice. She cooked one correct Oha soup ehnnn...chei mai pipu. Na to lick plate die be that one o!

I go hala!

10 comments:

NigerianDramaQueen said...

Bbaes you hit the nail on the head! I put on a little weight a while back, and when I went home for christmas, I was greeted with comments like "you have been going to mcdonalds too much oh" and "have you stopped going to the gym". And yeah people be saying all kinds of ish on Facebook. I guess the openness of our culture, which I appreciate, sometimes over extends itself and becomes a pure lack of tact!

Omo, pimples and all, nothing do u!! sTAY FLYYYYYYYY

NigerianDramaQueen said...

yAY im FIRST!!!

Anonymous said...

yeah...that word is definately not in our dictionary. i recently got a FB message from some guy in naija i met a while back and the first words were "You're fat" and then..."but you're beauty has increased"...lolol..i just had to laugh at that one...way to insult and compliment me all in one sentence.

soupasexy said...

yes o, it's just the naija thing. they dont see anything wrong in telling u, ur fat to ur face. they actually give it as a compliment..lol

TinTin said...

lol...

Afrobabe said...

Totally nigerian...

They never even assume you inteded to put on the weight....

Iwalewa McDaniels said...

A friend of mine came from Naija and I gave some pictures to him. He called and told me that the pple he was living with asked him if I was human cos I was so fat. I was just thinking wtf, I was slightly over 5 feet tall and a size 8 but what do u say to that kinda ignorance? And to think the idiot friend thot it was funny(we are no longer friends by the way)....

Original Mgbeke said...

You guys feel me tho! LOL @ Iwalewa..so after that na to cancel friendship shey? I no blame you jo.. Utter fokkery!

Elle Woods said...

lmao@ iwalewa.....mgbeke...i have found u o..u think ur slick abi?

Formerly stealth reader said...

am new to ur blog, luvin it so far, startin frm bottom to top(i get time shaa o)...ok my comment! i havee bin on d recievin end of so many tactless comments but this incident traumatized me den lol
i went to my best friends' house for d first time, played, had a good time and the next day in school she laughingly tells me her cousin says i am an old "mama" in jss2 and that i wasnt really 12/13yrs that i should be her age mate (she was abt 18 or more!) anyways i started saying i cud show d idiot cousin my birth certificate then i started crying and screaming at my friend why she would feel the need to tell me something so mean! she should have kept it to herself!
(lol puberty was tough for me, had boobs waaay early n a few xtra pounds n pimples and growing taller dan my classmates den didnt help either)