Monday, January 18, 2010

Bad personality traits of mine...

Just because we all wish that I were perfect...


1. Proud/Stubborn:- I can be very proud and stubborn. I dislike being told what to do and I find it hard to apologize, although I'm working on that one. The extent of my pride is such that I once went for 3 months without speaking to my parents over an issue in which I felt that I was wronged (not proud of it). I can't tell you who didn't call me trying to be the voice of reason...my sister o, my aunties o and I said lai lai! In the end, my mom called and that was that. If I intend to get married, I will definitely need to work on that one sha o or else my bride price will be sent right back to my father. Ha!

2. Easily irritated:- The smallest, randomest things tick me off. If I start with a list of things and people that irritate me, e go long. On the flip side, my bouts of irritation do not last for too long so I guess that's good.

3. Quick tempered:- Which can tie back to being easily irritated. My disclaimer is that if you don't come at me the wrong way then all will be well.

4. Judgmental/Judging the book by it's cover:- Not in the typical sense of the word i.e I am not judgmental of people who the world would typical judge. Rather my own be say, I tend to look at people and instantly decide that they look irritating/annoying and from then on, my interactions with them aren't the warmest of warm. On the flip side, I've judged a couple of folk and ended up liking them/becoming friends so hope dey.

5. Confrontational:- How is this even bad sef? At least I say my piece, it's been said and you know my church mind but apparently I need to work on my approach 'cos folk don't be liking it when I call them out. These days I don dey tone am down sef... *shrugs*

6. Hot/Cold emotions:- This doesn't occur too often but I do have my internalized hot/cold moments towards the world in general. Today I'm in the mood for you, and tomorrow I'm not. It's absolutely nothing personal.

7. Anal (sometimes):- I can be very anal about my possessions and my space in general. If I give something to you, kindly return it the way that it was given to you. I don't like people messing up my space...I'm the only one allowed to mess up my space.

8. Sharp tongue/smart mouth:- I will admit that e reach to tone am down sha o, one of my friends don include me in her prayer sef. Keep praying for me o! Hahahaha. But that's the essence of moiiii naaa.

9. Always wanting to have the last word:- I mean, why shouldn't I though? I gotta have the last say yo! (Another thing to work on in marriage if I don't want those 5 goats and yams getting sent back to my father). :-D

10. Very defensive:- I can ve very defensive and will take things out of context as personal attacks sometimes so I am always armed and ready for a comeback. In sec. school I earned the nickname of ER aka Ever Ready to attack. LMAO...how very sad.


And that is truly all that I could think of...

How y'all doing?
I feel like I'm losing my blog mojo...I will find it sha, no doubt. Where e wan run go?
Happy MLK day sha o, for my yankee peeps. Have a great week.

48 comments:

L-VII said...

1st!!!!!!!

L-VII said...

Lol, I suffer from some of these so called bad traits. It only serves to make one more interesting.

I am also easily irritated but only by really stupid people.

Quaggar said...

Stupid internet connection. Now L-VII just came from nowhere...

Anyways my dear, d first step, like they say, is realisation. And u don't need that brideprice returned...at all! lol.

Err.. what's MLK day? did u miss the I?

leggy said...

about the calling people out..its not the fact that you say the truth that pisses people off..its the way you say it...i like being told the truth but dont be insulting about it.im not confrontational at all..id rather avoid someone than call that person out.
im a proud person too..im working on it though..and im very defensive too.

miss b said...

i really admire ur honesty! i defo gt d whole gettin defensive thg!
nice blog!

Mwajim Al said...

I felt like i was reading stuff about me in that list... funny enough i did something similar two summers ago and slowly and unconsciously, since i was aware of the traits that i deemed needed change *that pride in me refuses me to call it bad*, i started to work and change, but not on my own oooo by His Grace. So good luck :)

Neo said...

1,2,3,5,7,8,9,10

Can identify with all of this, i am esp very anal and if u mess with my space i tend to exhibit one if not all of the other traits.

sometimes its not all bad....

The Nigerian Fetish said...

OMG. it sounds so bad. lol. i have most of these traits. Its hard changing the negative. But I am working on it, immensively!

Nice Anon said...

Birds of the same feather flock together. lol
Yes you are human and you're allowed to have flaws

Kodi said...

1st time I popped in here...I likey.

burramint said...

omg i can so relate on the stubbornness! i can be so so so stubborn its ridiculous... like u said im working on it too

i relate on number 6 too!

sigh the as they say the first step is acknowledging u have a prob...
happy MLK day to u too!

Azazel said...

Lol well as for being proud/stubborn..
If the person actually offended u, or in this case your parents.. well I would no blame u for holdin the grudge..

Myne Whitman said...

Seems a lot of us share the same traits. I easily blow hot and cold among many other things. LOL, at least you're working on them.

No lose your mojo abeg.

Chari said...

wait oh...shuo you're talkin about ME! like seeeriously yo!

SouLBoutiQue said...

You seem to be a mirror reflection of me....very scary!
Ag

doll said...

gd u'v identified them..thats the first step...now u'v gotta work on them..

BBB said...

am with doll on that

Harry-Rami Itie said...

I can relate....

Enkay said...

What's MLK?

lol at ER.

Sometimes I wish I was more confrontational. Depending on the approach this might not really a bad thing.

ifeoma odogwu said...

its ok. we all are stubborn in our own ways. at least ur workin on urs. kudos.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

don't lose the mojo...just apply all your negative traits in an effort to preserve you blogging mojo =)

Hoping all is well!

Sugarking said...

Chai! I no near here again!

Formerly stealth reader said...

lol i wish i was ER...........while i can be defensive, i mostly lack the comeback that is deserving when i sense a personal attack.........d silly thing is, d few occassions when i manage to have comebacks, i start thinking how mean i will be, how the other person will be hurt!(as if the other person even considered my feelings!msschew)...................................but i am working on my comebacks now, its hard! but i am trying, some people deserve it!!

LucidLilith said...

Jeez isnt that like 90 percent of all my persnickety qualms as well?!

Rita said...

Your blog mojo shall go nowhere...

Is it only 10 you have...you try sha. And now u've identified them (and even working on them) in no time I am sure u will have none to call ur own.

And they are not all "bad"

yankeenaijababe said...

keeping it real is best, the best way out is to work on the negatives and just be you.

Vera Ezimora said...

I tooooootally feel you on number seven. That's definitely me right there. I have issues with my space, and I can be quite anal sometimes, but don't tell anyone I said so :-)

Mamuje said...

To be candid, I could tick on all the boxes...everything and even more. The one wey i dey pass my power. I am anal, I love my space, like to have the last word...stubborn etc.... lol I have found my missing twin.

Writefreak said...

Well, not all of them are bad...and the very bad ones which you identified yourself can be worked/ improved on...why don't you ask God to help you with them?

How're you doing? Your mojo ain't going nowhere o!

Anonymous said...

I wish you ALL the best in working on your issues....you seem to have a lot of negatives. Good luck.

BlackizBeautiful said...

You are not alone Mgbeke....im most of the above if not all!

Anonymous said...

you forgot to add that you gossip alot.

FFF said...

hmmmmmm, e be like say we plenty wey get these bad traits!!!!! Most of them r dying off with marriage (MM may not agree with me dat sha, but he hasn't yet returned my bride price, so i guess it aint dat bad. lol)



don't lose ur mojo joo. we love u like dat!

histreasure said...

babe, i love u (so that mojo gotta stay)and i expect that u come with flaws .

.yes..cos i'm not perfect too(i could very much have written that list) and it's when we both realise our human frailties then we appreciate the people that love us the more, while we work on ourselves to be better people..

Anya P said...

ok...i don't think any of those things you listed are necessarily "bad".

In fact, I think you are perfect.




But if any of these traits lead to an excessive display of other kinds of harmful of behaviour which may cause physical, emotional, mental or spiritual damage to other human beings then maybe works needs to be done here!

David.фаворит Бога номер-один said...

mehn!!!
and no, i no do asewo work, lol!

olu said...

I feel you on number 1.

Anonymous said...

lol @ the anonymous posters feeling funky.

muyiwa said...

so you get easily irritated mgbeks,the man gats be a gentle soul

justdoyin said...

LOL @ SSD's comment...true talk!

we all do have our own "scoin-scoin" ...@ least u know what u should be working on...by His grace, u'll get to where u want to be @...for now, just enjoy being u 4 u have been uniquely created...

pls get ur mojo back...I don't want u chucking out on me...lol...

cheers

Enoch said...

How did I miss this?

Pride is the currency of successful achievers.
Easily irritated=detail oriented.
Quick tempered = thunder and lightening in bed.
"thou shalt not judge" is for the insecure
Confrontational is a non PC word for courageous
..
.....
I think you see where I'm going with all this.

Geebee said...

We all have bad personality traits of all sorts but it's how we complement these wt some good traits that make us better humans . . . but sha you harsh o. Only you with all this ghana-must-go bag of bad personality traits? lol. Trust u'r good. Please do something abt d blogging mojo. We cant afford to lose our Original Mgbeke now.

StandTall-The Activist said...

are you my sister or what? we share almost everything in common, I used to think am a complicated human being and with all these am still very very considerate of others.

The lesson I have learnt is to always be myself and never be afraid to improve on myself and never be afraid to use my personality as my strength-lol

StandTall-The Activist said...

oh but I can be very quick to apologise somwetimes and later think " but that was nto my fault" -lol

F said...

I can definitely identify with more than five of these traits... Abeg, everybody get their own comma... lol... I guess being able to recognise them is a step in the right direction since u can't fix something if u don't think it is broken in the first place.

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haaweee said...

dis personality traits totally describes me.....however am working on ma temper.....lol bt 4 da rest i dnt think diaz anything wrong with dat..??????....lol

Anonymous said...

Oh wow you just described me