Sunday, August 8, 2010

A new year, a surprise party and an apology of some sorts...

On Saturday, I co-hosted a show with Verastic which some of you probably listened to. Topic was 'Do women really need men?'...to cut a very long story short, I and my co-host got into it. Now peoples, I realize when I'm wrong and when I step out of line and although hard to do, I will admit to it. I got a chance to listen to the show again, and if I had to chance to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing. The only thing I apologize for is partially messing up the first quarter of poor Vera's show (although Nigerians too like drama, sha). I will say this for the millionth time, I do not and will not tolerate anyone telling me how I should feel about any situation in my life. That is what pushed my buttons. So, for the idiot that commented and called me uncouth and blamed it on 'American Radical Feminism', in my past life I would have called your mother an uncouth being, but I'm a changed woman now. Don't get out of hand and act like you know me, homie. Yes, I do not believe that women need men, so sue me.
So, there you have it. To Vera, again I apologize for that little bit of drama that popped off but I can't say that I will turn a blind eye to the next fool who tries to tell me how to feel about any situation in my life.

On to the main gist of the day...

I celebrated a birthday on August 3rd, 2010. Unlike most of the rest of the world, I really look forward to birthdays because I enjoy getting older. On the flip side, while I enjoy going for other people's birthday parties, I'm not the biggest fan of celebrating my own birthday. Left to me, I'd stay home and sleep.
For instance, when I turned 25...my friends literally talked me into hosting a simple birthday dinner. Such a far cry from the rest of the world who seemingly celebrated their big 25ths with 3 day events popping champagne, buying out the bars and hosting guests in the VIP sections of swanky clubs.

Sooo aniwoos on my actual birthday, my dear friend and homeskillet Ms. RoyalReigns and my ex-roomie took me out for a quiet dinner at a local lounge close to my hood. I enjoyed dinner with the two, as I received my lovely gifts and sipped too many glasses of wine.
We had discussed potential plans of going out the following weekend, but lately I've been in total chill mode/less in the mood to hit the scene so I fashied plans and in my mind, that was that...

Until yesterday night, after I dragged my tired feet in from a wedding reception accompanied by my other dear friend and homeskillet Tori (who was instrumental in the planning of the surprise party). I was just ready to get home, take my shoes off, wash off my makeup and chill and as I inserted the key into the look and entered my dark apartment...I saw cameras flashing, followed by a big shout of 'SUPRISEEEEE'.
Initially, I was scared to death and I ran back out of my apartment. I thought I was being mugged (I think the shouts of 'surprise' hadn't registered yet). Then I realized what was happening, ran back in, and saw all the dear people who had worked to put together this very wonderful surprise. Like, they TOTALLY got me, I sooo did not see it coming/have a clue and I was so overcome with emotion like OMG, they did this for lil ol' me? that yours truly, who hardly ever cries for anything started shedding tears.
My dear friend, and the wonderful Zizi of the Zizi Experience (The Zizi Experience)...key planner of the surprise party, went to great lengths to whip up a nice spread which included fried rice, jerk chicken, sausage rolls, scotch eggs, salad and a beautiful cake with mango icing. There was also lots of wine and sangria, and all in all I had such a great time. In retrospect, all I can do is thank God for things like this that make me feel so loved. I thank God for everyone who came through to surprise me including those that drove all the way down from New Jersey to do this. I'm thankful for everyone, and sooo grateful to everyone who made it happen and participated. Thank you guys so much, this truly meant the world to me. I was so so touched. :-) :-)


And while I'm thanking people, I gotta thank another homeskillet and dear friend Taynement for the birthday post and shoutouts. And thanks to RocNaija for the birthday wish in ze comment box! :-)

The end.

PS:- Got sucked into the Twitter craze. Ms. Royal Reigns made me do it, and no I won't abandon Blogger but I definitely tweet more often than I blog. Check me out here .
PPS:- For the 3 people who care, the shopping blog's been updated.

43 comments:

Omosi T said...
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Omosi T said...

Happy Bleated Bornday!

Omosi T said...

Belated*

Ginger said...

What lovely friends for a wonderful wonderful forever young though agadi-cious woman! Happy Birthday Mgbeks and God's blessings all the way.

p.s. didnt I tell you I will miss Verastic. worse I was at home doing absolutely nothing. this uburu agadi anyi a! You go girl..helping you flip the finger at the guy who dared annoy you! he belongs to a museum.

Gee said...

Awww family frend i dint know oh! *knock head plenty times*, hu forgets their family frends bday??--LOL--happy happy belated bday dear!--May God bless u plenty plenty that you have more reasons to laugh and make us laugh here on ur blog!
:D

Ms.O said...

Awww that is soooooo sweet of your friends! Glad you had a good birthday!

Azazel said...

Happy Birthday buddy

Nice Anon said...

Awww how sweet of them. So touching and cool! good for you girlie

Last Born Child said...

Happy belated birthday! I've been reading your blog for a while now but this is my first comment.

I felt I had to let you know that I understand your frustration with your co-host on Vera's show. Some men just aren't ready to hear that women can be self-sufficient and happy without them.

Noone needs anyone else - we may want them though :)

P.S. The substitute host (Funmi I think?) was out of order stating only people who have been through pain can be "happy" without a man. That's some BS.

Young Grumbler said...

Aww, happy belated birthday...you have wonderful friends!

Myne Whitman said...

Belated birthday wishes, that was a great thing your friends did o. Plus I missed the drama, let me go catch up.

Onose said...

Happy Birthday!!! im still waiting on a surprise bday party myself.

leggy said...

happy birthday dear.

Myne Whitman said...

I just listened to the first part of the show, you don't have to apologize. That guy was way out of line! But you razz o, lol...well your name says so already..

shorty said...

Happy Belated Birthday!!1

Listened to the drama o, you go girl! but i was laughing all through it sha. Lol

isha said...

Happy belated birthday!

doll said...

happy birthday in arrears, seems like you had a blast.

P.S no one has ever thrown a surprise party for me

udee said...

Happy belated! It's so awesome to be surrounded by people who love you enough to make birthdays something to look forward to :)

And for the men out there, who are fond of writing a woman off as feminist (as if that's a bad thing!), they can go jump off a cliff.

Lara said...

Happy belated birthday...you have such wonderful friends.

As for the verastic show, am with you all the way, the guy was so immature and opinionated like most Nigerian men...call us feminist if you like but we sure do not need men to survive

Reverence said...

i didnt get a surprise party :( but i love my gifts and i got a real yummy cake so i am happy.spwaking of cake never heard of mango frosting sounds yum!

oh i finally listened to the show that was hilarious. maybe i am naive but i think the guy was just pushing your buttons. he cant honestly believe that crap he spewed..

mizchif said...

I WANT CAKE!!!!

Infact now me sef i want my own surprise parry!

One3snapshot! said...

two whoas!

one whoa for the show...haven't heard it but now i gotta figure what that's all about

2. dang i missed a party for my besty...lol feck that feck that. I'm hella happy you got a party you deserve one...a little envy that i wasn't there! gotta make up for it soon yo!
-n

EDJ said...
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EDJ said...

Happy Birthday! I have been surprised by bday cake but not a party! Congrats on another year.

I understand the whole thing with the Verastic show. Seun was really rude and what he said was very unnecessary!

I joined the show right when you guys were getting into the argument and I had to go back to listen to the show to hear how it all started!

It was hard to fill your shoes and co-host after you left but I try small. Lol.

Chic Therapy said...

Happy Belated birthday

RepOne said...

Aww how very sweet. I wanna see pics of you crying oh :p

histreasure said...

Your friends are awesome..that was mighty nice of them..Have a beautiful new year, Girl!

LG said...

many happy returns babe
*ur cake's cute:)

olu said...

Happy Birthday. And Welcome back - for the one millionth time

Olufunke said...

Happy belated birthday dear!
Its good to beloved that way,
I so so so so love surprises!

Thank God for good/caring friends!
May this be your best year yet!

LucidLilith said...

I just listened to the show and all I could do was open my mouth wide and wonder how anyone like naijabloke living in the US could have the mindset of his ancestors. He was 100% wrong from start to finish...shio...talking about you don't have a man to defend you...i wish i had co-hosted and give him some life lessons about what BEING SINGLE is really all about. Yes, it is coming from someon who is over 30 and single. (Shebi he told you to wait three more years...no need, let him come and ask me...)

Anonymous said...

I think funmi sounds retarded! But there's nothing wrong with women 'needing' a man.

I am of the same school of thought as you are, i don't need a man abeg, their wahala is too much. I am surprised that people (like Seun) cannot believe that a woman can be single and happy. I am 34 and single and happier that i don't have a man. lol!

and i think he forgets that there are women who prefer women. Is he saying that they are unhappy or worse of because they clearly don't need men? Anyway Happy belated birthday to you and you should no have hung up, i thought you were better and stronger than that. You kind of made him 'win' because you let emotions get the better of you.

Next time stick to your arguements without reducing it to insults. You started it and he responded in a way that would get to you. And he did get to you. I am slightly disappointed that you hung up, you shouldn't have.

Anoda Phase said...

awwww...I'm so pleased your friends chose to bless you that way. I'm sure you had a swell time, so no need to ask...

yes, over to the shopping blog...

Fragilelooks said...

its coming very late. but still hope u had a good one. bera years ahead.

The Girl with the Red Hair said...

Happy belated birthday

Deez said...

Crapppp!!! I would have loved to be a part of the show. This whole man and woman thing no be by force. Be single if you are happy or be married if it will bring happiness. Marriage is not compulsory. If I don't what I want then I will stay single.

We could all live without each other but companionship with the RIGHT person is always nice.

Happy belated baiday

Anonymous said...

Happy belated birthday, long time. There are plenty of us August babies on blogsville. I love the surprise party, u do have wonderful friends.

I think feedback should constructive, that would prevent such scenarios as the one that got you "upset".

Take care...

Rita said...

Warn blogger I am not anonymous...

aeedeeaee said...

AWWWWWWW...Happy belated birthday Nwanne m!

Archie Glaze said...

Guess we all need people to make us feel special...

Nonso said...

Happy Birthday! I love surprise birthdays too. We held once held one of my uncle.

'People telling you how to lead your life' must be one sore spot. It's something that I think no one can escape from (being told how to lead one's life that is).

I enjoy your articles. Bloggin in pidgin was new to me. innovative and interesting.


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LusciousRon said...

Happy Belated Birthday! People just enjoy being a sounding board. Ignore them

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