Monday, March 9, 2009

Clutter

I dislike clutter. If your number has been sitting idle in my phone for the last 2 months i.e no sort of activity including texting and the like, chances are it will probably be deleted.
My IM lists in total has about 5-7 active people. I deleted the 1 million other inactive folk who I randomly chatted with one and off.
I am constantly downsizing stuff from my closet...

Yes, I dislike clutter.

And it gets extra awkward when such idle inviduals randomly text you out of the blue with 'What's up blahblahblah' and I'm thinking 'who is this?'. Back in the day I tried to be nice about it and cook up some excuse about 'I switched phones and your number didn't make it'.
These days I straight up ask 'who is this?' and I get responses like 'ah ah, is that how it is?'

Nothing personal sis/bro...I just do not like clutter.

I noticed that I had been deleted off about 2 individuals' Facebook friends lists and I wasn't even mad at that. If I was in their shoes and I was some inactive random person on their list, I would probably delete me too.

Sometimes I wonder if I should make space for a little clutter.
For instance, in the case of the deleted numbers. I figure that it's not a bad thing to hold on to people's numbers just in case of incasity, but then I figure that is what facebook is for right? right.
I mean, I'm more lenient with the FB thing. So if there was any in case of incasity event that came up, I could always contact you on Facebook and possibly ask for your # or something.

It is just a huge peeve to be scrolling through my phonebook looking for a number and I find a whole bunch of random ass digits that are making it even harder to find what I am looking for.
Or ya know, I don't understand why I should have a whole bunch of folk on my IM list that I don't even talk to like that.

And I don't think that it's a bad idea to de-clutter one's blog list too. I mean are you really going to be reading and commenting on someone's blog and they never/hardly ever check on you? Or is that petty?

Either way, de-cluttering rocks!

So, do you keep the stagnant folk around in case of incasity or are you a constant 'downsizer' like me?

47 comments:

bumight said...

I think i need to declutter my blog-list and facebook too!

Rita said...

Don't like clutter but never dealt with it. Might just be nice to delete some numbers in my phone, but because of incasity, I have to leave the numbers...

LOL @ I would probably delete me too

bob-ij said...

ahhh! I'm the opposite.... I love all those old school text messages. I think I have about 4000, don't ask..

I don't know why I hang onto all those numbers in my phonebook but I don't want to not know who is texting or calling...I feel so guilty :$

x!

Temite said...

hehehehehe. I do actually read all of the blogs on my list and the majority of them dont even know who I am. Oh well. Oh and go on ahead and delete those numbers o jare...if I no use am...I am deleting it. gosh I am supposed to be studying data analysis. off I go. TTYL

ibsi-W said...

oh my gosh i sooooo feel u, especially that facebook one..like sum ppl hve 1000 sumin frends nd prolly talk to lke 100(im bein lenient here)of them..hiss

i recently did a big fb detox nd sum retards added me again..*sigh* ppl do not take hints anymore!..lol

O'Dee said...

I am always downsizing, from my FB friends to IM list to my phone book. Clutter is not good jo, & people just want to know your business on FB.

I have leave some 4 incasity sha. Esp now that I am an entrepreneur.

RocNaija said...

Lmao... I honestly don't believe you just used the phrase "..in case of incasity.." three times in your post!!!
I've not heard that in ages and three come along at the same time..!!
I tend to do a bit of de-cluttering randomly.. Problem is I tend to start looking for an item I got rid of six months ago for not needing..
So now I'm more.. 'flexible' :)

LG said...

*hands on hip?* ehhhhhhh so naim make u de-clutter me 4rm eze goes to school OR na my eyez?:-)

*i so feel u on declutting 'tho i hardly delete numbers 4rm my 4one' cos u neva kno wen it might come in handy even if its the maiguard'number :-)

Afrobabe said...

I always declutter my facebook and phone book too...sometimes I scroll through and cant remember the person., rings no bells so I delete them..

Recently decluttered my blog list, was full of people who no longer blog...I dont visit everyone who visits me but I try to add them to the list if they have come at least 2wice or 3 times...I only ever visit blogs that have updated on my list...

Zena said...

ummm the blog list thing is a little bit difficult, like I cant get myself to delete Zephi or T.L.K, or NaijaFyne boi's links, I dunno...but I just stop commenting If I dont get a reply, a hi, after I have come on somebody's blog more than 4 times and get no love, lol...I'm sorry I do

With F.B, and fone's if I don't talk to you or if i don't think you'll be instrumental to my future or any hook-ups, I press the delete button, I delete everything, even if its not my fone,
I hate clutter, if i don't wear something, I either give it out or salvation army it

downtheaisle said...

few days ago I found myself doing the same thing with phonebook. Numbers stored at random, probably a primary school mate you met at "Game" or the cinemas...funny circumstances

Many numbers are better left deleted for a breath of fresh air than to keep a cobweb of them jare!

Original Mgbeke said...

Bumight: Yes, you should.

Rita: Sometimes those #'s come in handy but ah well...

Bob-Ij:Wow, 4000? You try o! I used to feel guilty, now I no send.

Temite: So much for data analysis yeah? :-p

Ibis-W: Some people so not get the hint o. Esp the ones that you decline their friend requests 'cos you don't know them and they re-add you. Yeyerism.

O'Dee: There is something I want to launch, and I figure I will need to keep #'s for business purposes. Argh, can't I just save 'em somewhere else?

RocNaija: Na why I be the original Mgbeks na. In case of incasity my brother. :D...I should learn some flexibility.

LG: Hahahaha, no o..no be ya eye, no be film trick. :D
Yes those #'s can come in useful later. Maybe I fit ask person why potentially get the #.

Afrobabe: Thought it was only me. Some #'s I look at them like 'who is this??'...DELETE. Yeah blogging/visiting blogs na work, I do try to visit people who leave comments and all.

Zena: I am holding out for NDQ o...that one I haven't deleted. But you really think like me. *Hi five*

Downtheaisle: You know?? Like make I free up space for other things o jare.

Reverence said...

i am such an in case of incasity kinda chick... i refuse to declutter cos i am constantly afraid i might need it.
Even my desk at work is full of papers and reports that i am afraid to throw away in case my boss asks for it *sigh*

oh so you on that CPA grind too? girrrl.. i am taking audit first

you know thats 3 things now we have in common..hmmm

Shubby Doo said...

yep i've removed people from my fb and my IM too...

i spent the whole weekend clearing out junk in just my bedroom...ended up giving 3 suitcases to charity, one of which was full with stuff...when i was done i also had 3 black bags of rubbish for the bin men

like u say...de-cluttering rock

Shubby Doo said...

but i try and keep my e-mails and text messages sha!

Ms Sula said...

I am not the best at keeping physical clutter under control, but I don't play with my people decluterring... :)

I have a very low threshold for other people's BS, so when it just starts to become a bit too much for me to handle, you're cut off. Easy.

I did some major de-cluttering last year and my year has been improved DRAMATICALLY! So do You, darling!

(I didn't know you could find out when someone unfriended you on FB? I actually do not accept friendships of people I barely know. If you're not someone I care to know about, I don't accept your request)

wordmerchant said...

i hate clutter..always have to pack things away and get rid of old things because i believe they take up space for potential new and better things..crazy huh?

mizchif said...

I like how u put it....CLUTTER!
I'm definitely not one for clutter, except when it has to do with shoes maybe.

I've definitely deleted more than a few ppl.

Ms.O said...

I am the opposite. I keep everything. My life is clutter(in a good way) I feel eevrything has a memory attached to it, and I never want to let go. I am weired like that!

brownskinaijachic said...

i keep them incase of incasity, u neva know when u need them.. i just feel indifferent about clutter.. i just learnt that word though clutter, me like

Enkay said...

I am SO good at physical decluttering that it makes my siblings want to tear out their hair!

Once I start, I throw every 'useless' thing out and you see them rushing outside, rummaging through the stuff to see if they could salvage anything. And I'm like, save whatever you want but don't let me see it in here!

Yup! Just like a tyrant! lol!

Unfortunately, I'm not so good with decluttering my phone book or facebook. I try to do it once every year. My rule is that if there's no activity between us for the whole of one year, and we are not related in anyway, then your number gets deleted. I feel guilty sometimes but I'm yet to get a phone call from anyone whose number I already deleted. So I guess it was the right thing to do after all!

Now this comment is too long. Sorry! lol!

Dabizniz said...

I don't mind the text but I can't stand clutter in my physical space

Beulah! said...

Oooh!, i'm so opposite of this. I find it difficult to part with physical possessions. I hold on to it 'cos i just mite need it some day (i say to myself). same applies to contacts (facebook, phone, e.t.c.)...u never know who u mite need 2moro...

AlooFar said...

to unclutter sef is a problem. i'm tired of doing it all over and over again.

Writefreak said...

Decluttering is good, no need to keep junk!
But then sometimes some phone nos come in handy sometime! I have a phone for nos i don't use often and i just refer to it when i remember the pple

CultureCynic said...

My name is Chioma and i am a hoarder!!! maybe i need a decluttering manuel or sumfin cuz my religion is never to throw away or let go of things...( weirdly enuff i do this just for clothes)sigh...i have tried o to join a "declutter" group many a times, but i no get liver to even start. Ok i guess i need to get to it then..so am starting with my phonebook, although i reckon that the best way to avoid clutter is never to let it accumulate in the first place, seee acceptance, now i need to apply this mantra and do as you do. now what to do with the fb list bit, each time before i accept that random potential stalker as a fb friend, i will sternly ask myself..WWMD?? lol

lil' spider said...

i love clutter!!!!! I am very sentimental abt old stuff, so its ussually hard for me to throw stuff away! even phone numbers! hav this thing on my system that asks me to clean up unused icons on my desk top and wen i do, i hav to add some back, cos all of a sudden the desktops empty!!! but i get it... maybe i'll try it some... lol!

CultureCynic said...

Hey dahling, as you wish

http://www.chictopia.com/Chomy

Original Mgbeke said...

Reverence: Isn't it more than 3 sef? lol..G'luck girl! I wish you the very best.

Shubby Doo: wow, must have been very refreshing!

Missy Sula: Really? You come off as extra organized. And yay to less/no drama. Hmmm as per that FB steez, you find out when you try to click on their profile for some reason and you no fit.

WordMerchant: That is my mentality. i guess we are both crazy. :-)

MizChif: I may be guilty of the shoes bit though. A girl can never have too many. ;-)

Ms. O: Let gooooo. You just might love the feeling.

Brownskin: The incase of incasity attitude does work for some people.

Enkay: No probs jare. We think alike on that one, although the numbers do not stay in for up to a year. LOL

Original Mgbeke said...

Dabizniz: Hmm even the text sef, taking up unneccesary space.

Beulah: Like Enkay said, I can't think of any deleted contact that has really made it back. But yeah, I may need them some day...

AlooFar: So you declutter, they make it back, you declutter and accumulate more? lol

WriteFreak: I have toyed with the idea of keeping them in an address book or something.

Culturecynic: LOL, you are a trip! WWMD indeed, 'cos you know she would DECLINE in the first place. ;)

Lil spider: LOL...I don't like my desktop looking crowded o. You are funny...

Fashinga said...

I feel you with the clutter thing but i'm one of those people who likes to hold on to things...i still have text messages in my fone that were sent a year ago..even irrelevant ones that contain just one word like "hi"..lol
I've bin thinking abt turning a new leaf though and deleting those random ass numbers on my fone..
but the texts...Hell No!!! i luv mi msgs too much...especially the ones my boo sent me..i read them ova and ova again..lol!!

Later Babes!!
F.

ablackjamesbond said...

LOL @ in case of incasity

I see am not the only one who hates clutter. Can't stand it.

Bibi said...

i should learn how to do that. i swear everytime i go thru my fone, i see numbers like "party guy 1" "lanre mall" and stuff like that. decluttering should be my new cool. lol. FIRST TIMER

Gee said...

Clutter!
lol...its funny cuz i think of this sometime but it crosses my mind that decluttering mite b rude or....wat if something comes up?
I mean having dem there though not adding anything to my life but definitely not takin any from me

kmplx said...

i have to force myself to declutter... :( help!

Danny Bagucci said...

still got text messages from 2003 and email from 2001 meself.... Guess its just that I like to keep a history of how me and my friends have changed over the years... Plus it doesn't really take up space on my laptop anyway.. Downsized my FB list from just under 1000 to sthng like 300, everyone of whom has a valid reason to be there.

Gee said...

hahahahahahahhaha...I cant stop laffing!
This is too freaky!
I actually just got one text message, I had to google the area code to even find wer its from so u can clearly tell its been ages since we last spoke! Sha the person happens to be from georgia ATW(all the way) but i have/once had a couple of frends in georgia so rite now im not even sure which it is!

Just thot i share this cuz its funny that I was just reading bout declutterin!

FFF said...

i used to declutter 4 a living! papers r d first 2 go, cos i collect books/magazines/receipts/lists/everything written on paper. one day, am cleaning up & everything just goes. unfortunately, i've thrown away important bits of paper. d info on dem r now gone, & i feel really bad about it.

i declutter phones numbers too, & i try to back them up on my nokia suite first, cos i may never know wen it'd b useful. same goes for text messages & notes.

my fb lists haven't checked, & daz 4 a crazy silly reason oh. cos i enjoy d number of friends dat keep increasing. makes me feel important. hehehehehehehe. i decluttered my blog list wen i changed template, now i can't visit all d sites i used to. now, dat makes me feel so bad, especially now i don't blog as regularly as i used to.

Iwalewa said...

I usually de-clutter my phone after a while but I just cannot bring myself to delete some numbers even if I haven't talked to the owners in months, sometimes even years. I always just imagine how awkward it would be having to explain y I deleted their numbers.

PS dp not delete me from ur blogroll. I know I dont update but it just makes me feel gooooood (lol) to c me name up there.

Geebee said...

De-cluttering is definitely a good idea. I do it every now and then especially on my phones. I do a random deleting every three months or thereabout and usually I delete like 50 or more contacts each time . . . numbers I always have to store again whenever the fella remembers to check on me after like forever. I’ve not yet extended it to my facebook or messenger lists and I guess I’ll take a cue from you and do just that . . . even my blog list too needs de cluttering especially those that hardly check my spot or update theirs . . .

Geebee said...

De-cluttering is definitely a good idea. I do it every now and then especially on my phones. I do a random deleting every three months or thereabout and usually I delete like 50 or more contacts each time . . . numbers I always have to store again whenever the fella remembers to check on me after like forever. I’ve not yet extended it to my facebook or messenger lists and I guess I’ll take a cue from you and do just that . . . even my blog list too needs de cluttering especially those that hardly check my spot or update theirs . . .

theicequeen said...

hehe i am a pack rat, i hoarde...and i cannot actually stand clutter, but i always feel like it will be useful at some point-it never is....i should go on one of my sprees and throw things away..i really should...

Tha BossMack TopSoil said...

Clean up babygurl.

joicee said...

I don't mind having numbers of people or facebook friends I have not talked to in a while...but I stand clutter in my closet or anywhere around my house

Buttercup said...

lol..im afraid im too lazy to declutter..when i think about doing it, i just groan and ignore the urge..lol..

MPB said...

I am definitely a downsizer. In fact, i feel a rush of power and pleasure when i delete people from my phone and facebook. Today, i threw away 3 bottles of nail polish that i havent used in 3 months, some hair gel that I bought last week and my pantene shampoo...lol. SOmetimes though i regret my throway antics, like today I was looking for some lotion and then remembered i threw it away.

Shubby Doo said...

lol....especially at remixing names...i knew a tim(rotimi) a sean (seun) and an eddie (ade)...that shit kills me everytime