Tuesday, December 23, 2008

What are you looking for in a man?

The oh so popular question that has had its answers changed and modified over the years.

When we were 16 and just fresh to the dating scene (Well, I was a late bloomer o jare)…this is how we answered it:

*Racks brain*. Actually, I never got asked that kain yeye question when I was 16 jo.

When we were 18 and feeling like big chicks, thinking that nobody could tell us nothing… this is how we answered it:

He must be tall. He must be fit and muscular like Boris Kodjoe. He must be at least 6’2. He must be fine. He must drive a BMW or Mercedes benz. He must be a doctor, lawyer or engineer.

When we hit 21 and felt like we don legal finish, feeling like babes wey don ‘arrive’…this is how we answered it:
*Insert all the answers from 18*, plus he must be older than me. He must make more money than me. He must have at least an 8 or 9 inch stuvvings that will give me multiple O’s every day.

When we hit 25/26, still feeling like big chicks but also realizing that some of our mates don start to dey marry/boo’ed up…this is how we answered it:

He must at least be my height, he must be comfortable in life i.e finances and career wise, if I make more that he does it’s cool...this is 2008 and as an Independent woman, ‘I got it, I got my own’ (according to NEYO). He must have a good and reliable car; it don’t have to be a luxury ride as long as it gets us around. He doesn’t have to be fit like Boris..I mean it’d be a plus but if he’s fat like Yokozuna I can always buy him a gym membership for Christmas. 8 inch stuvvings are overrated anyway as long as he knows what to do in bed, besides it’s not about the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean or whatever the fudge they say.

And then we hit 30, cat damn! Our mates were all married and bouncing bomboy on their lap, doing matching aso ebi with their husbands in church…this is how we answered it:

Is he a man? Sign me up!!!

Tell me ladies, what are YOU looking for in a man?

Happy Holidays honey bunches.

PS:- I'm getting mad mixed reviews on this template of mine. What's not to like?


Anonymous said...

Ooops, ladies corner.

Anya Posh said...

hmm...1st thing mgbeke...this template is eek! I can't see the font, it's too umm...grey! grey & black...seriously? maybe you should make the font white or even better return to the old layout. I'm really just being nostalgic.

Anya Posh said...

Ok...on to the type of man i'm looking for. I'm still in the early range so my standards are still prime. He must be a good person; faithful, honest, loyal, a God-fearing man, ambitious, have a great paying job, friendly disposition (gets along with people), a Christian (hmm, some pagans fear God too), and I must find him attractive so that means he can range from average-looking to smokey hot/ridiculously handsome. And yea 7-8" of stuvvings would be good enough ;)

Anonymous said...

This post cracked me up cos it's so true!

I thot this was very funny for personal reasons "He must at least be my height"

After being with one too many crazies, all i want is someone who first and foremost makes me happy or at least doesn't remove from my present happiness. Then he has to be self sufficient. I don't want to take care of any grown man. Easy on the eye. I will not compromise on that one, abeg!

Ms Sula said...

Open Minded.
Kind hearted
Curious about life.
Sensual Lover (a must).

So which category do you fit in, the Original one?

Original Mgbeke said...

Yay..I am actually trying to start replying comments.

@ Re-thots: yessir. Ladies corner indeed.

@Anya: I changed it. I like your list.

@ Sting: I hear you o jare. You're gonna have to be staring at his face for Lord knows how long, he better be easy ony our eye. lol

@ Missy Sula: The 25/26..but my list is slightly different because at 18/21 I never had those extra idealistic wants.

Anonymous said...

I am 23.
So here it goes
1. Kind
2. Curious about life
3. Loves Sex
4. Adores me
5. Ambitious

LG said...

the one wey God give me'
merry kiss'mass dear :)

Anonymous said...

Hee hee hee!!! makes me remember...the saying then o...he must be TDH!...well your gal went on to add some words of hers...TDHEW!!!
TDH...Tall Dark and handsome
TDHW...Tall Dark Handsome Eloquent and Wealthy:-)
so back to the question...of 'cos the God factor is a given(na default jare)...a man with a great sense of humour,integrity,discipline nad knows his way around the kitchen without any supervision should be treasured!!!*wink!wink*

Beulah! said...

Hahhaaa....very funny!!!, True talk sha..

Afrobabe said...

my dear not even sure if I still wnat a man jare...

maybe I should start thinking of switching...

TayneMent said...

lol@AFROBABE..I feel you my sister(besides the switching part,lol), it's just disheartening what's out there.

Smile To The Bank said...

Oh this is for the ladies! But then, Ms Sula just x-rayed me.

Ms Sula said...

@Smile To the Bank.... is that right? ;)

Emeka Amakeze said...

I will be back when you girls are done talking about what you want in a man.

Original Mgbeke said...

@ Temite: I hear that!
@ LG: Happy holidays Missy. :-)
@ NoLimit: LOL. I no blame you o jare, a sister gosta eat so if he can cook, ooooh weee..that's a plus.
@ Beulah: :-)
@ Afro and Taynement: Maaan...e no easy o. e no easy at all...Afro if you switch, let me know how it is on the other side.
@ Smile to the bank: ezi okwu...ummm send me your age and location asap. LOL
@ Emeka: Hmmph, come back o.

Buttercup said...


hmm..God-fearing, ambitious, funny, down to earth, sensual, considerate, exciting...

Unknown said...

God fearing and all the works.

to be serious: someone who is like God.

in attitude, character, lifestyle

is that too much to ask for?

Let him love God more than he loves me.

ablackjamesbond said...

ladies...is it really that bad out there?

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